One common trait of abuse survivors is that we tend to have a lot of negative thinking. Its really hard to
retrain our brains but it can be done. Just by reading the following affirmations everyday (which takes just
a few minutes out of your day)we can begin to remind ourselves daily of all the things we should have learned
in life, but haven't, up until now. Make flashcards of the list and read through them , or make a cassette
tape and listen to it daily. It really does help!
Edmund Bourne PhD (2015) provides the following three guidelines in working with your own original affirmations,
created by you, for you:
- An affirmation should be short, simple, and direct. "I believe in myself" is preferable to "There are a
lot of qualities I have that I believe in."
- Keep affirmations in the present tense ("I am prosperous") or present progressive tense ("I
am becoming prosperous"). Telling yourself that some change you desire will happen in the future always keeps
it one step ahead.
- Try to avoid negatives. Instead of saying "I am no longer afraid of public speaking", try "I am
free of fear about public speaking."
Here are some affirmations you might want to adopt for yourself:
- I have a choice.
- I am precious.
- I hold myself in warm, positive regard, no matter how I act, think, or feel.
- Other peoples behavior does not determine my worth. If I thought so I was mistaken.
- Enthusiasm is grounded in play. Your creative work is actually your inner playmate.
- It may hurt now, but it won't hurt forever.
- I learn from positive and negative experiences. My joy is divine and so is my suffering. Theres
so much to be learned from both.
- I have survived.
- Recovery is the sweetest revenge.
- The best of tools only work if I used them properly.
- Hope is natures way of enabling us to survive so that we can discover nature itself.
- I move from poverty thinking to prosperity thinking and my finances reflect this change. I delight
in the financial security that is a constant in my life.
- May I not fail to see today how loveable and worthwhile I am.
- The only way out is through.
- I am innocent.
- Surviving is a sign of mental health, not mental illness.
- I am a loving advocate for my inner child/children.
- Where I am in my process right now is exactly where I should be, and its a good place to be.
- "No," is a complete sentence.
- God didn't create an illness without also creating the remedy.
- You have more to give than you realize. The only expectation you should have in giving to others is
what you expect of yourself. Thats how you stay replenished.
- Life is a cycle, from childhood to childhood.
- Before you can heal others you must first heal yourself.
- Today, be mindful of how you judge others. By recognizing why you see others in a negative light,
you discover the fears that you need to heal in yourself.
- Illness begins in the stomach, and diet is the main remedy.
- Always leave some space when you eat. Within, its a magnet for inspiration, introspection, and
keeping you attention awake.
- Bless your difficulties and ask to see their hidden guidance.
- Don't ask to understand the secrets of the universe, but simply know what this moment means.
- The purpose of life is to become what you are.
- Forgiveness of yourself means more to God than your sacrifices.
- Resisting change leads to illness. Accepting change brings about peace.
- Whatever is exposed to light itself becomes light.
- The root cause of all disease is a negative attitute about taking care of youself.
- All suffering stems from ignorance, hatred, and craving.
- To heal the body, first heal the mind.
- Wellness is our natural state. Disease is an impostar.
- Help others quietly without expecting gratitude or rewards.
- Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.
- To be sure of the road, close your eyes and walk in the dark.
- God gives you only the present, moment by moment.
- Now is Now. Are you going to be here or not?
- Illness is not a punishment, but a stimulant to life.
- Let the beauty you love be what you do.
- The soul is on earth for its own delight.
- May all creation dance for joy within you.
- Perform every act as if it were your last.
- In silence, we most readily preserve our integrity.
- Everything lost is found again; everything hurt is healed again.
- Without hope, we live in desire.
- The world lives and breathes, and we can draw it's spirit into us.
- I am safe in the universe, and all life and love supports me.
- I breath in the fullness and richness of life. I observe with joy as life abundantly supports
me with more good than I can imagine.
- My life is a mirror. The people in my life are really mirrors of me. This affords me the
opportunity to grow and change.
Bourne, E. J. (2015). The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook [6th edition]. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.